Updated: Nov 29, 2019

Lola is to me as Sasha Fierce is to Beyonce … my alter ego!

Lola is the part of me that allows me to feel the fear and do it anyway. Lola is confident and unapologetic. I couldn’t be in the entertainment business without her.

The hubs and I celebrated ten years of marriage this past weekend and the day before we were due to fly to Paris to celebrate, I woke up in a blue funk. This doesn’t happen often, but more often lately as menopause and I get more acquainted.

I knew I would have to snap out of this funk because I had a Motown show to do that night. I had no energy, my brain felt foggy and the idea of jollying my audience along for two hours was torture.

I didn’t even have the energy to pack my sound gear in the car and drive the 45 minutes to the gig. So I begged the hubs to be my roadie, and being the wonderful man that he is, he acquiesced.

We arrived at the venue but Lola hasn’t made her appearance yet, so I force a smile unto my face and I drag myself into the venue. I greet the event organizers, shake hands with the DJ and then grab a cup of coffee and leave Neal to unpacking the car and setting up my gear. After a few sips of Java, I guiltily start to help with setting up.

Sound check done, guests arriving and I’m in my dressing room still in a funk. Lola, where the eff are you? I’ve got less than an hour ‘til the start of my first set and there’s no signs of Lola … just the Blue Funk.

Now it’s showtime. I’m in my sparkly dress and stilettos, wig is fluffed to maximum height, and still no Lola. Just tired ole me. Now the DJ is introducing me, I am walking to the mic and there she is. It’s like I felt Lola step inside my shoes. Lola showed up and showed out with all her fierceness and confidence! Two sets and two encores later, Lola left the building but her energy was still pulsing through me. There was a pep in my step as I headed back to the dressing room to change, leaving my roadie to pack up.

Lola again saved me from myself by being the part of me that is unstoppable. I am always in awe of Lola and I will always need and be thankful for her because whatever Lola wants … well, you know the rest!

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